Don't forget to celebrate
As humans, we have a very reliable mechanism for beating ourselves up over our failure. When we do something wrong, we're often good at finding out about it - and even better at feeling guilty about it. We're pretty good at punishing ourselves, whether it's because we failed to stick with our gym schedule, or because we didn't perform in a potentially life-changing opportunity.
On the flip side, we seldom celebrate when we succeed. Partly, it's because we don't know what we mean by success. It's easy to fail, or to do something wrong. It's also easy to realise it afterwards too. But it's not so easy to know whether you've done something "right". There's no limit to success - but ironically it's because of this that so few will bother to chase it.
Often, we will not reward ourselves after sticking to the gym schedule. We might just assume it's normal, or "supposed to happen". There's no such thing as success in this mindset, only failure.
But if instead, we set clearly defined and reachable targets upon which "success" is achieved, then we can justify celebration. When we celebrate, it means that we know what it means to succeed.
Don't make failure the only achievable condition - define success.
